And what’s preventing you from it

Like so many people I’ve spent a lifetime trying to fit in. I did all the expected things: college, solid job, marriage, kids. When problems arose I took on more work to ease others, I did family therapy, made amends, tried to “change” and see things from others peoples points of view. I inhabited these points of view - to appease them, but never felt ease. I’ve spent so many years trying to fit in, to blend in, and be like others, so as not to disrupt till the relentless suffering came.

Then I realized something extraordinarily powerful:

I don’t fit in.

It’s such a simple, obvious and yet startling revelation. What followed was a tumble from my mind:

I didn’t invent this reality that I’ve been struggling to fit in.
What works for others doesn’t work for me – and that is OK.
And those other points of view I tried to inhabit? They were bullshit used to control me for years.

I reflected on all the touchpoints in my life: school, work, family, friends. I saw how often I had been “othered”. I observed how many years I’d spent in the limbo of trying to survive gaslighting, projections and scapegoating. I acknowledged how much manipulation and abuse I put up with because I thought I was supposed to work within these systems, adapt to them or change them.

Till finally, I received the most amazing gift, an awareness that: your wrongness is your strongness. This concept is so simple, so refreshing and so liberating.

And now I’m safely on the other side. I’m growing, cultivating and liberating my weirdness. I’m pulling oxygen into my “wrongness” and growing it larger then I’ve ever allowed myself before. I’m happier and healthier then I’ve ever been in my life.

So, how can I lend a hand to you: sensitive soul - empath - blacksheep - weirdo - artist - friend? Can I help you out of seeing a “wrongness” in your strongness?