To be happy

I know I focus quite a bit on trauma. I'm pretty fresh coming through it myself and I worry sometimes that I lean on that too much with y'all. Sharing, perhaps oversharing...wanting to save others the pain I've been through.

I know it's not possible but if I can set some breadcrumbs down to show the way out then I feel it's been worth it. So - to shift - let me ask a couple of questions:

What's the point of being on this planet?

Can we find our way to joy?

What's it gonna take to get there?

Truth be told I'm writing this newsletter from an airport bar. I'm coming home from the memorial service of my aunt, my mothers oldest sister. There's something very clarifying about watching generations get closer to their at bat. I know too that that will be me someday.

In my own circular journey I've arrived at this conclusion: the entire point of being here is to find your way to joy. I also know that for the vast majority of us, that sounds like a crock of sh*t.

So I offer more questions:

What can you put down (beliefs, people, places, things) that do not serve you?

Who could you become in the absence of those things?

This is a good enough place to start and frankly the hardest step. I had really significant attachments – people, places and things that I made so significant. And now, without them, I am so much lighter. I have no regrets, and much more joy is accessible to me. It wasn't easy getting here, there was a whole lotta pearl clutching! But now, I'm free.

How about you? Let me know if I can help you traverse the way.