So divest from the outcome

I know this is pretty counterintuitive but stay with me.

I’ve had countless clients who book my time in the hopes that our meetings will help them procure the outcome they are hoping for. This is of course, the most difficult encounter - when folks have an agenda. My most recent call fell into this vein. I knew in the first five minutes that she was bound up by her own expectations. Her resistance in full effect as she was yessing me, nodding her way through our session and clearly not listening.

She had plans to attend to: the husband that was supposed to materialize years ago, a house they were to buy, babies she was supposed to be having, family expectations she was supposed to be meeting.

And him not showing up? That wasn’t according to plan.

Here's the thing, I saw none of that happening for her. It appeared to me that her life was to take a different path. Something energetically exciting and unfamiliar to her, something more nomadic and romantic. I didn’t get all the details, but what I did know for sure was that there was no white picket fence on her horizon as far as I could see.

And here’s the kicker. She knew this too. Toward the end of our call, our second in the last year, she admitted that she didn’t even want to get married. She went through a couple of relationships in the last year, half hoping they were the “one” that she could hitch her wagon to. But she couldn’t quite convince herself to take these relationships seriously. Side note: I’m never going to see something for you - if you a) don’t want that outcome or b) can’t imagine it for yourself.

And there's the rub…many of us are wanting things that perhaps aren't meant for us. On the subject of women of a certain age, marriage, babies, et al, is that even right for you? Is there something different or less conventional that you haven’t considered? Can you live with the mystery?

I see so many women trying to pour themselves into this particular mold with it’s narrow scope and definitions. Not that being a wife and mother is a bad thing, I did it, but I readily admit it’s not for everyone.

all of it, good and bad,.. And all of the “good” stuff - the stuff you want - follows your joy. Its really that simple. And the hard truth is that you can’t maintain your joy and do CONTROL at the same time.

You see, your life: the new job, world travel, partnerships and relationships, new home, is a creationship. It’s all built in partnership with so many energetic forces that are conspiring on your behalf. It all comes easier and faster if you loosen the reins, divest from all expectations and allow for something that is beyond your imagination (and mine!) and find your way to happy.

To help chop up the blocks of rigid thought and expectation I offer these questions:

How can I find ease and joy in this very moment?
What grand and glorious adventures does today have in store for me?
How does it get any better then this?