The anti-miracle machine

How much energy do you use to destroy the very thing you say you want? This seems to be the very crux of the work I do with folks. We uncover the wanted thing, then folks spend the rest of the session avoiding and defending against the very thing they say they want. It's an infinity loop. Tension wise it's like two train cars pulling in opposite directions. You get nowhere fast.

The reason folks do this is because what they want feels to them like the stuff of miracles. And they've concluded that they aren't worthy of miracles. Only folks like me, folks in a special category get to have miracles.

And for all of that, I call bullshit.

They real reason folks don't get what they want is multifold, but two big reasons: They are so completely brainwashed by this reality that they have no reference point for miracles. You can see this happen in sports. Once upon a time, the 4 minute mile was unheard of. It was defined as an impossibility. Until, of course, someone did it. An athlete of magnitude ignored all the naysayers, put their nose down, made a choice, and achieved it.

Two. Folks have defined their miracle. This is a slightly stickier concept...when you've put hard parameters around your desires and defined what can show up, the universe can then only deliver to you what your mind can imagine. This leaves no room for the universe to blow your mind and take you beyond what you know is possible (ie: a miracle).

My own personal example of this is wanting to get married. I was done, I was ready to settle down...but finding the "one" was elusive. I went to the 'I give up' phase and focused solely on my happiness (surrender is a super important step). Then what showed up was WAY more then I could have imagined. A mate, a first-gen Italian, kind and cute, with deep roots to a fantastical place called Ischia. To me, a provincial Jersey girl, this was beyond anything I could have imagined for myself. It's as if I received a a free pass to a magical island in a magical place with a man that magically appeared.

Again, the thinking mind and its imagination can only reach for what we know is possible - which amounts to what we've seen before. So when we reach for something beyond what's familiar, beyond our culture and beyond what our families have deemed acceptable, we're in uncharted territory. We are undefined. And being undefined is unacceptable in this reality. So we fold and collapse in on ourselves. We unconsciously keep ourselves small. And the infinity loop continues.

So what are the steps to getting beyond this? Surrender, as mentioned above, is a great place to start. Embrace the depair and mourn your control. Then, question everything. Question every assumption. Question every limiting thought. Question everything you've concluded is true. When you live AS the question that's the step where expansion into miracles is possible.