Dismantling the undergirding of the biggest block to personal power

I might get some hate mail for writing this dispatch. Yup, I may be judged, but here goes anyway...

Think about it, whom do you judge? The present president, the last one we had? Big oil? Folks that litter? Your parents? The person at the checkout counter? The list can become mighty because they deserve it - right? I know, I've been there and maybe you're there too.

It's this list I want to help you dismantle. I contend, using the example of my own personal experience, that judgment, and its sister - fear of judgment, have locked you up. Siphoned the very special sauce that makes you you - your energy. Additionally, judgment binds you in a perpetual cycle of confusion, like a treadmill to nowhere.

This past spring as I was zeroing in on the root causes of the basal cell carcinoma that had afflicted my face for three years, I came face to face with this conundrum. I was in a black hole of confusion. It wasn't until I realized that childhood trauma can be the root of many chronic illnesses that I began to see the tiger’s tail.

My particular brand of judgment centered mostly on the fear of being judged. At times lurching out and becoming myself. Other times I dimmed my shine out of fear of being judged by others, never really being chest-out, always hiding somewhat.

Then, one day, in an Access Consciousness class. I had an epiphany...I realized I had been in the business of judgment. You see, judgment requires energy. Lots and lots and lots of energy. This energy siphons directly from you. It's your attention, creativity, drive, focus, your very life force.

So why are we all on the judgment treadmill? For one, we're conditioned to do it in our deeply protestant-ethic culture. We're also rewarded with the community for it. Got a judgment? There's usually a Facebook group you can find to support you in that. Finally, judgment is a kind of currency. It falsely elevates us. It separates the "good" from the "bad", dumbs us down, helps us to lose our complexity, and makes life easier to digest. It also affirms our rightness and our egos love nothing more than the drug of being right.

At the very center of all this, we mistakenly assume that by not judging we're somehow condoning: cruelty, and abuse and letting the "bad guys" get away with it. When the fact of the matter is folks who make "cruel" choices are simply doing that - making a choice. In the moment of a "cruel" choice, we also have access to choice. We can claim our power and our voice. We can override them, redirect or remove ourselves if the opportunity presents itself. But what usually plagues us is carrying the baggage of judgment long after these events have passed.

Within one week of making these realizations, my face spontaneously healed. Voila! Something that had plagued me for years - gone. It seemed like a miracle. I contend that all the energy I was using to make myself small - the energy I used to judge others for judging me, became unlocked. Once unlocked that energy knew exactly how to benefit my body.

Now, I don't suggest this is easy. You've got to be really ready for a shift like this. And notice that I never once mention "forgiveness" as I don't think that that is necessary. The absence of judgment is the DNA of forgiveness anyway - so might as well just get out of the business of judgment and leave forgiveness to itself.

So, what's left in judgment's place? What space and awareness can be yours by freeing yourself from judgment? What miracles will find you now that they have space to manifest? How much power can you be and enact without self-judgment? Let's find out...

(if you're interested in Access Consciousness classes, eliminating judgment and more, check out the link below to 4 Tools to Find Your Happy, November 23rd, 6 pm, Zoom event)